- There are a lot of misconceptions about what bisexuality means and seems like.
- Many stigmas surrounding what it means to be bisexual put unwanted labels on others.
- It’s not true that people who identify as bisexual are more likely to cheat or are simply “confused”.
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According to u Kinsey scale, Sexuality is a spectrum. The way you identify is not limited to “gay” or “right,” and sometimes, it is not limited to identity.
There is a societal pressure to choose a label to make your identity simpler or more convenient for others, and thus, it can be difficult to experience your journey on your own terms.
It took me several years to understand and accept that I am bisexual.
Even as I say that, the identifier doesn’t sum it all up, because there’s more to my sexuality than the perception attached to their label.
There are a lot of misconceptions about what bisexuality means and seems like, and sometimes the stigma makes me want to scream. Let me clarify a few things.
I do not know only attracted to people who identify as women or people who identify as men
The prefix “bi” means two, and so it is believed that being bisexual means that you are attracted to both men and women. Period.
According to the Human Rights Campaign, bisexuality can be defined as an attraction for more than one sex, meaning that they are attracted to people who identify as female, and also to those who do not. Gender in itself is complex, and it would be naive to assume that bisexuality can simplify it for both male and female attraction.
I am not confused by my sexuality
There’s an unfair stigma that being bisexual is another way of saying you’re confused by what you want. This belief erases bisexual identity altogether, discrediting who I am attracted to.
I’m not sure who I love, this isn’t a phase, and this doesn’t repress an alternative, armed sexuality. I’m bisexual, and I’m sure of it. No one can decide how you feel other than you.
Being bisexual doesn’t make you more prone to cheating on your partner
There is an assumption that it has an attraction for two or more genres it makes someone less able to be faithful in a relationship because their needs are not met by the sex of the person they are with. Sexuality has nothing to do with infidelity.
A person’s loyalty to their relationship is personal and based on the individual, not their sexual identity.
Having an attraction to someone opposite the sex of the person you are in a relationship does not mean that you are more likely to wander away from your partner.
Anyone is able to deceive their significant other – bi, straight, gay, trans, etcetera. Bisexuality is not the drug that leads to infidelity.
Bisexuality seems different for everyone
There is no wrong way to possess your sexuality. Everyone experiences a different journey to discovering their truth, and the way I define my bisexuality may not seem the same as the way I define your bisexuality.
That doesn’t make my identity more or less real than yours, it just means we’re different, and that’s okay. How boring would life be if we were all the same?
I am a part of the LGBTQ community
Do you see that B in LGBTQ? Represents bisexuality. That in itself should be an indicator that we are included in the general LGBTQ community, but bi-cancellation is a real problem.
There are some people in the community who fall into the trap of believing many of the stigmas against the bisexual community, and therefore choose to deny the existence of our sexuality because it is not strange enough.
If you are not in a relationship with someone who is the same sex as you, but you identify as bisexual, you are a valid member of the community. If you I know in a relationship with someone who is the same sex as you, but identifies you as bisexual, you are a valid member of the community.
Your partner’s gender does not invalidate your sexual identity or your inclusion in the LGBTQ community.